How Do I Love Myself As A Woman?

How Do I Love Myself As A Woman?

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If you have low self-esteem and struggle with depression try one of these activities.

Start a List

One of the best ways to get started on your journey is to make a list of things you love about yourself. These can be physical features such as your hair or your smile. But they could also be things about you as a person such as loving your imagination or your skills with colour.

How Do I Love Myself As A Woman?

It’s OK if nothing comes to mind when you first try writing. Loving yourself may be a foreign concept and it’s not uncommon to struggle with this at first. Just keep your list nearby and add it to as thoughts come to you later.

Give Yourself Validation

Sometimes, it’s tempting to turn outwards for validation you need. Maybe you always rely on your friends, parents, or partner to remind you that you’re amazing or that you make great decisions.

While community can be wonderful, this approach also creates a problem: you’re at the mercy of other people in order to feel good about yourself. Instead, become your own cheerleader and trust your inner voice.

Say No

At least once a week, say “no” to something you don’t want to do. This might be “no” to a project that you can’t take on or it might be a “no” to a previous commitment that isn’t in line with your values.

Once you say “no”, plan to use that time doing an activity that you enjoy. For example, instead of going to an event where you’re not needed or don’t really want to go to, stay home and work on something you enjoy or spend that time on a date with your partner.

Forgive Yourself

When you’ve made mistakes in your past, it’s easy to keep replaying them in your head. You think about all of the ways you failed, about what you would have done differently, or how you’d like to change the outcome of a situation.

But this type of replaying isn’t good for you. It erodes your self-confidence and makes you question your own judgement. Give yourself permission to move on by practicing self-forgiveness. You might say something like, “I know I did ABC. But that was in my past. Today is a new day and I will walk in it.”

Pick An Affirmation

Pick an affirmation that brings you peace and carry it with you each day. Here are some examples:

  • I am worthy of good things.
  • I celebrate my inner strength and resilience.
  • I respect my body and honor it with healthy choices.
  • I create beauty everywhere I go.
  • I embrace my imperfections and love myself as-is.
  • I am more than my body.

Learning to love yourself isn’t a destination. It’s a journey that you take for the rest of your life. You may struggle with it at first but don’t give up. Keep leaning into self-love and you’ll find your way.

Books on self love for women:

Empower Yourself By Loving Your Body: The Woman’s Guide To Reclaiming Yourself As Sacred – If you are like most women, you sometimes find yourself struggling with confidence and a sense of self-love. Empower Yourself by Loving Your Body will take you on a compelling journey of reclaiming your feminine body. 

The Self-Love Experiment: Fifteen Principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting of Yourself – Too many people seem to believe that they are not allowed to put themselves first or go after their own dreams out of fear of being selfish or sacrificing others’ needs. The Self-Love Experiment rectifies this problem.

How Do I Love Myself As A Woman?


  • Sophie

    This is totally on the button and speaks to me. I’m just coming out of the other side of depression and I’ve only recently realised the importance of self love and self care. I’m going to take the mantra ‘I am worthy of good things’ with me everyday.
    I’m reading a great book about self love at the moment for a review, it’s called ‘Reader, I married me.’ By Sophie Tanner. It’s such a feel good book and I can totally recommend it.

    • Sue

      Hi Sophie,
      It’s great to hear you are coming out of depression. That book sounds interesting I’ll be sure to take a look.
      Sue 🙂

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